The Art of Spotting Love Obsessions

Part 1 – Are you hooked?

Picture this: You’ve fallen head over heels for someone. Your heart skips a beat when their name pops up on your phone, and you spend hours analyzing their messages. Normal, right? Well, not always. Recognizing a love obsession is like deciphering a secret code.

Welcome, dear readers, to the roller coaster ride of emotions we call love! 

Sometimes, Cupid’s arrow hits us a little too hard, and what starts as innocent infatuation can quickly morph into a full-blown love obsession. Fear not, fellow love warriors, for today, we embark on a journey of self-discovery, armed with laughter and a magnifying glass to examine the signs of a love obsession.

Symptoms include constant anxiety about the relationship, stalking social media profiles like an undercover detective, and a nagging fear of rejection. If your friends start giving you side-eye for constantly talking about your crush, it might be time to reassess. Start with pondering the classic signs of a love obsession:

It’s like being stuck in a rom-com turned psychological thriller, and trust me, that’s not a good combo. So, do you:

1. Know your crush’s daily routine better than your own? If you find yourself accidentally bumping into them at their favorite coffee shop or subtly memorizing their grocery list, you might be a certified love detective. Remember, there’s a fine line between cute interest and full-blown surveillance – and it’s time to check if you’ve crossed it!
2. Send your messages that resemble an emoji explosion? You might be overdoing it. Sure, heart eyes and smiley faces are cute, but if you’re sending a string of heart emojis that could rival a love letter from Shakespeare, it’s time to hit the brakes. After all, a well-placed laugh or witty remark is worth a thousand emojis.
3. Fantasize about your love interest and your daydreams involve mundane activities like sharing a toothbrush or picking out matching sweaters for your non-existent pets? You might be veering into obsession territory. Take a step back and ask yourself if your dreams are more sitcom material than real-life goals.
4. Dig deep into your crush’s social media profiles? If your scrolling habits would make Sherlock Holmes proud, it’s time to reevaluate. Remember, there’s a thin line between curiosity and obsession – don’t be the digital detective who accidentally likes a post from 2010.
5. You are not dating regularly. This is a BIG ONE. If It’s not a real relationship building on a regular basis, it’s an obsession of the worst kind. Do not wait for them. They will not grow up, get it, or change. They are already showing you their level of interest and it’s nonexistent. Ponder, gather your thoughts, get real, and move on.

I had been seeing this guy on and off for 5 years waiting on him to grow up, get it, and have an AHA moment. Very gingerly, very compassionately, Joyce guided me into a personal awakening that he was not going to magically change and become who I needed him to be. I have since moved on, met someone wonderful and am so very grateful for her guidance through a very rough time in my life. Joyce helped me see what I didn’t want to see, that he was a commit-a-phobe and would never change without professional help (which he would NEVER get!) She helped me save myself and my life by allowing me my own process of self awareness.

Jane P.